“The one that is meant for us is going to be the hardest to get, the hardest to keep, and the hardest to accept because through all that, the love will grow stronger. Love wasn’t made to be easy, otherwise we wouldn’t end up with the right person. We would end up with the first one who comes along. By struggling we single out the wrong ones and realize who really is the one.”—
“People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered. Love them anyway. If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Do good anyway. If you’re successful, you will win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway. The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway. The biggest person with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest person with the smallest mind. Think big anyway. What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway. People really need help but may attack if you help them. Help people anyway. Give the world the best you have and you might get hurt. Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.”—Mother Teresa
“Make a radical change in your lifestyle and begin to boldly do things which you may previously never have thought of doing, or been too hesitant to attempt. So many people live within unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservation, all of which may appear to give one peace of mind, but in reality nothing is more damaging to the adventurous spirit within a man than a secure future. The very basic core of a man’s living spirit is his passion for adventure. The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun. If you want to get more out of life, you must lose your inclination for monotonous security and adopt a helter-skelter style of life that will at first appear to you to be crazy. But once you become accustomed to such a life you will see its full meaning and its incredible beauty.”—Jon Krakauer
"If you stand for nothing, you will fall for anything."
Recently I’ve been struggling with a series of frustrating events involving the things that people do and their negative effect on my emotions. My mind would empty and fill with negative thoughts and feelings, like the recurring tide upon the beach. I consciously noticed the lack of optimism, yet I just couldn’t find the right key to unlock my mind’s tomb of negativity.
As my negative thoughts surged my mind, and I struggled to keep them out, I realized that this fight-as-they-come strategy was not working. What could I do to forever armor my mind from the constant attacks of these penetrating worries?
And then it hit me - my strong belief in love - God’s love, in its free form that expects nothing in return and is shared selflessly. This is what I live for. Sharing love with others, even if it risks being ignored, disregarded, or rejected. Love is something to believe in 100%. Even from a secular viewpoint, love has the potential to change the world, if we all thought about ourselves a little less and devoted a little more of our time to helping others out of love.
This is what I stand for. I stand firm in love.
I encourage you to find what you truly stand for. What do you believe in that you can truly live for? When I establish the foundation of love to base my life upon, I am able to be stand firm, unyielding to negative thoughts and worries. Without a strong foundation in love, you will be easily swayed and broken by frustration and negativity.
Look upon all future instances of frustration, anger, irritation, worry, and misery as tests upon your foundation of love. Adversity is for strengthening. “Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” - James 1:2-4. Change your perspective to view these painful and miserable experiences as positive steps to build character, mature, and fortify your foundation of love.
Finally, if you are easily angered or affected by things people do, consider that these events are out of your control. Many of the things that get us down are inevitably beyond our control. But there is one thing that we can always control - our attitude. You have the choice of whether you want to be happy or sad. Bad things do happen, but how you respond to them defines your character and how your life plays out. You can choose to be bogged down, immobilized in sadness, or you can choose to rise from the pain, stronger than before, and be happy for what you have. Don’t let others get you down.
Be your own sunshine and radiate love to others.
"Anyone can give up, it’s the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart… that’s true strength"
Dr. Sean Maguire: My wife used to fart when she was nervous. She had all sorts of wonderful little idiosyncrasies. She used to fart in her sleep. I thought I’d share that with you. One night it was so loud it woke the dog up. She woke up and went ‘ah was that you?’ And I didn’t have the heart to tell her. Oh! Will: She woke herself up? Dr. Sean Maguire: Ah…! But Will, she’s been dead for 2 years, and that’s the shit I remember: wonderful stuff you know? Little things like that. Those are the things I miss the most. The little idiosyncrasies that only I know about: that’s what made her my wife. Oh she had the goods on me too, she knew all my little peccadilloes. People call these things imperfections, but there not. Ah, that’s the good stuff.
You long to give yourself completely to someone, to have a deep soul relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively. But God says, “NO, not until you are satisified and fulfilled and content with being loved by me alone, with giving yourself totally and unreservedly to ME. To…
Note to self: Start changing yourself before you try to change the world. Stop dreaming and start doing. Cast off your selfish heart of desire and truly accept a pure and selfless heart of love. It starts with you. Now is the time.